Am I Just Crazy?

I am definitely the kind of person that looooves to take online personality quizzes. Enneagrams, Meyers-Briggs, and all of those other personality quizzes that make us feel validated. Surprisingly, I had never heard of this love styles questionnaire. My mom had showed me the “love languages” (Physical Touch, Words of Affirmation, Quality Time, etc.), but I was excited to see what my love style was from a different perspective.

So my highest is Eros (32) and my second highest is Mania (30)… which begs the question, “Am I just crazy?” Eros is described as powerful, passionate, and romantic, but as Dr. Law so adamantly discussed, this is not the “romance” that typically comes to mind. It’s more of an emotion between the two people. As Eros is depicted as “fast-moving”, I definitely agree that this is me. My partner and I met on a Saturday, and were officially dating the following Tuesday.

In class, Dr. Law claimed the Princess Bride was an example of Eros love, but I see it as more Agapic. Maybe because it’s one of my favorite movies of all time, but still. Agape is described as a generous and selfless love, and it could be argued that Wesley is exactly that.

It kind of makes me mad that Mania is my second highest, but that is only because it highlights things that I have previously recognized in myself and I am trying to change them. Am I a jealous person? Yes. Am I an anxious person? Yes. I really don’t like the word obsessive, even though I know there is some truth to it. Mania is a tricky one to be able to put a positive spin on. I feel like Mania is not a bad thing, if you consciously know that it’s influences are present and you mindfully approach relationships. If you just throw caution to the wind, and let the Manic love style rule your life, then you could get into some messy situations and end up getting hurt. Either by your own actions or by the way someone receives your actions. Not a recipe for greatness, in my opinion, but here I am. Just an erotic, manic, jumble of mess.