Hi! It’s the first day of November and that means Christmas!! Hello the most wonderful, happy, STRESSFUL time of year! So for this blog, I’m gonna keep it a little light-hearted and, as usual, make some people uncomfortable. I am incredibly comfortable talking about my sex life/experiences/fantasies/etc. AND that is exactly (kind-of) what I am going to talk about in this blog. Sexual fantasies, and how some people (including myself) don’t realize they had a fantasy until it’s happening.
So. Let’s dive in. Halloween season is currently upon us, and for lack of a better term, this is a perfect opportunity for role play, if you’re into that sort of thing. Now this is the part where we get into having dormant sexual fantasies. Personally, I didn’t think I had any “fantasies”. There isn’t anything wild or crazy (that I haven’t already done) that I have the desire to try. Or at least I thought. Until Halloween. And now we know role play is something that is 100% a sexual fantasy of mine. Don’t worry, I’ll spare you the details, but after I had this realization, I asked around my friend group to see if anything like this had happened to them.
One of my friends, lets call her Alison (not her actual name), said that this has happened to her too! She apparently is in to voyeurism. This isn’t something she had ever fantasized about until she had heard a story from one of her friends. One of Alison’s friends had a consensual, voyeuristic experience, and Alison realized that it was something she would like to try. It wasn’t a fantasy that she had developed after becoming sexually active, and exploring her own sexuality. Like my situation with role play, it wasn’t until she heard about it that she knew she wanted to try it. The situations are a little different because role-play is fairly common, while voyeurism is not.
Some might argue that Alison didn’t know she has a voyeuristic fantasy because she didn’t know what voyeurism was. In response to this, I would argue that someone with a preconceived voyeuristic fantasy would still know that they had a fantasy of watching other people have sex or wanting an audience while they participate in sexual acts. Without knowing the term voyeurism, Alison still would have known about the fantasy, she just would not have been able to describe it with the correct terms. With my role-play situation, I knew what role-play was, and I knew that it’s not really seen as “taboo” but it was just never something I REALLY wanted to try, until recently! But hey! Now we know!
Fantasies can develop over time, and with the stories I have heard, and my first-hand experience, I hypothesize that there is a possibility that people can grow out of fantasies too. Here I am, 20 years old, finding out I like role play, but I don’t know if my sexual palette will change by the time I’m 40, 50, 60. Who knows? Not me.
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